Why I talk about my trauma

published on Feb 17, 2020

CATEGORIZED AS: Decolonization | Spirituality

I've had a number of folks recently tell me they're worried about me because they think I'm "stuck" in trauma because I talk about it.

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Here's the truth.

I talk about my trauma because that is part of how I heal it. Stories are medicine.

Much of the trauma I talk about is from the distant past. Some of it is healed and I talk about it from a place of having healed. Some of it is still raw, and I talk about it from the place of being in healing. Lots of it is in an in-between place, a spiraling journey from "still tender" to "old and beautifully healed scars," with lots of levels in between.

Sometimes old traumas I thought were healed get reopened and I learn that there is still more healing to do. So I do it.

I also talk about my trauma because it's real. I tell my friends here about the joys in my life, about the amazing friends and allies and experiences I get to enjoy. About my pride in and love for myself and my land and my family. I tell you how wonderful my life is.

And I want you to know that my life is also REAL. That it also comes with its share of sorrow, grief, pain, and work.

I want you to know that I experience ALL of it. I embrace all of it, even when I am also resisting some of it.

I want you to know that if you are suffering right now, that doesn't mean you always will be. It doesn't mean your life can't be bright and beautiful and happy and meaningful, too. It can be both/and.

I tell my stories because stories are how I save myself, and saving ourselves is how we save the world.

I'm not stuck in my trauma. I'm ENDING my trauma. I'm healing it. And I'm making it MEAN something.

So please don't worry about me when you see me posting about the hard times. By all means, help me, if you feel called. Send me notes and post comments and say prayers and petition your gods and do Reiki, if any of that feels like something you want to do. I am grateful for all of it. It means the world to me.

But don't fear for me. I am strong. I get stronger with every blow I weather. With every trauma I heal. With every story I tell.

And thank you. Thank you for caring. I am so grateful for all of you.


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